Are you nice to yourself? Are you able to accept a compliment, or do you brush it off like it could not possibly be true? Do you treat yourself the way you would treat others, or are you nicer to others than you are to yourself?
If these questions resonate with you, I am betting you suffer from a terrible habit called low self-esteem. Habits are perpetuated by a lack of presence and conscious awareness. Every moment is a chance to say goodbye to your past and to create a new beginning. Do not carry your history around like an extra unwanted 20 pounds. Wake up and declare today a new day.
Every moment is an opportunity to begin a fresh start. If your opinion of yourself is less than the opinion that others have of you, I am betting that you are not being honest with yourself. You are likely lying to your own reflection, and what is worse, you are living in a self-perpetuated nightmare. Like Cher said to Nicolas Cage in “Moonstruck”, “Snap out of it!”
I encourage you to make a list of the things your friends say about you and a list of things that you say about yourself. When you juxtapose the two, I would bet money that if you have low self-esteem, the things your friends say about you will be much nicer than the things that you say about yourself.
Your assignment does not end there. The next step is take a good long hard look at yourself. For many, that may mean literally in a mirror. For some of us, this may mean self-reflection on an emotional level. Why do you beat yourself up? When your friends give you a compliment, they are not lying to you to make you feel worse about yourself. You need to start being honest with yourself and believing the kind things they say about you. Start with one compliment and begin to believe them one at a time.
Life is supposed to be enjoyable friends. It is supposed to be a fun and joyous. If you do not enjoy your life as much as you would like to, today you can begin to change that. Today, try to be honest with yourself, not excessively critical. Tomorrow, try a little harder to love who you are. The next day, try a little bit harder. Change is a journey. Take baby steps toward the goal, but you have to start today. Your own happiness is within your control.
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.” ~Henry Ford
With love and honesty,