Are you honest with yourself? If you tell yourself you are going to do something, do you follow through? Would you consider yourself your own best friend? The answers to these three questions greatly determine the level of your happiness.
Having an honor code with yourself is imperative to living a joyful life. If you are not honest with yourself, how can you expect someone to be honest with you? Moreover, if you are not honest with yourself, it leads one to doubt how honest you can be with others.
Those who have the greatest self-esteem are often the most honest with themselves. They know exactly who they are, and if they make a promise to themselves, they keep it. Without question, people with high self-esteem also consider themselves their own best friends, and they value their own opinions.
Do you get upset when others do not do what they say they will, but find yourself not following through with your own declarations? That is hypocrisy, and we can all be guilty of it in this particular case. We often think that if we tell ourselves we are going to do something and do not follow through, no one is none the wiser. However, that is the biggest mistake one can make when it comes to self-esteem.
You have to hold yourself accountable to the things that you say you are going to do in order to hold yourself in high regard. Think of it this way, when others let you down and are not honest with their words, they disappoint you. So, when you do not follow through with the things that you say you are going to do, you end up disappointing yourself. That disappointment chips away at your self-esteem.
If these words resonate with you, I would suggest that you ask yourself why? What is holding you back from knowing yourself completely, and from trusting your own opinions? I would also encourage you to dig deep and figure out why you do not keep your promises to yourself.
This is one case where I strongly recommend journaling. With journaling, you can read your own thoughts and find a proactive solution to fixing the problem. Often with therapy, or just having a conversation to a friend, we can process the emotions, but have no plan of action to remedy it. Journaling is a way to hold yourself accountable for the remedies you devise to become more honest with yourself, and to stay true to your personal honor code.
You can also create a calendar for the goals you set for yourself. This will require you to check your calendar daily to hold yourself accountable to your proclamations of change. When you keep your own promises to yourself, it is important to reward yourself with a check mark, a gold star, or something else that will further validate that you did a good job by holding true to your word.
You are important enough to be honest with yourself. You have the power within you to live the life you have always wanted. It is never too late to wake up and claim this power. Today is the first day of the rest of your life, my friend. Seize it!