To piggyback off of yesterday’s post, Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, let’s delve a little further into the concept of the inner self being more important than the outer self.
What is your number? Are you the number on the scale? Are you your age? Are you your dress size, your height, your bra size, or your cup size? Of course not! You are none of these things individually, but these numbers are a part of you. Most importantly, these numbers do not and should not define you. They are very small elements that make up something bigger, your physical body as a whole.
So what are you then? I would challenge you to begin to think of yourself as your good deeds, as the number of laughs you share, as the joy you bring to others. Have you made someone smile recently? Have you shared a compliment with someone just because the thought crossed your mind? Have you performed a selfless act to help someone out?
I would also invite you to value yourself by the amount of love you have in your life. How much love you receive can be measured by how much love you give. So, how much love do you give to the people who are important in your life? Who loves you back? Why do they love you? What are the wonderful qualities that you possess that make others want to be around you? What makes you special and unique?
The next time you begin to put too much value on the external, list all of your wonderful qualities, remind yourself of your good deeds, and remember why people love you. These are some of the qualities that culminate into your true self.
Your body is a temporary home. We have to love it while we inhabit it. We have to treat it well, and take care of it. But, we do not have to let it define us completely (see Bigger Than My Body for more).
Who you are as a person is a gift. Be proud of all the joy you can bring to this world, and of all the love you can share. Value who you are as a person, because unlike the body, the Self is eternal.
“To be nobody but
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”
~ E.E. Cummings