How often do you complain? Seriously, I am asking you to honestly analyze how much you complain on a day-to-day basis. I know people who complain the entire time I am in their presence. That’s a lot of complaining.
To vent is one thing; to complain is another. I understand if someone needs to get something off of their chest. That is venting. Complaining is when someone mentions the same problem over and over and over again, or just chronically moans about everything; nothing makes them happy. Honestly, it is exhausting to be around.
While we are at it, let’s talk about screaming and yelling. Raising your voice unnecessarily shocks the system of the people around you. It makes them tense. It also stimulates your and their sympathetic nervous systems–the Fight or Flight response–so screaming brings stress into the body of anyone within earshot.
From a yogic perspective, humans are composed of energy channels, called nadis. There are approximately 72,000 of them, and they house prana, or cosmic energy. From a scientific perspective, the human body is made up of atomic elements that house energy. Ancient yogis also knew that the left hemisphere of the brain controls the right side of the body, and vice versa. So, there is something to be said about the relevance of ancient yogic wisdom that is more than 5,000 years old.
From yoga we also learn that the human body has seven chakras, or wheels where mass-energy is concentrated and spinning. Don’t know what I mean? Well, you ever get a lump in your throat when you are at a loss for words, or get really choked up? That is the throat chakra closing. Ever get a sinking feeling in your stomach? That is the solar plexus chakra telling you to avoid that situation. Ever get a “gut feeling”? That is the solar plexus chakra advising you on how to proceed. How about when you see someone you love? Do you feel warmth in your chest? That is the heart chakra opening.
Now when you emit negative energy, like complaining or yelling, you are spreading that negativity around to others and it literally affects their bodies, their attitudes, and their stress level, not to mention your own. You are turning on their Fight or Flight system, you are tensing their bodies, and you are cutting off the channels of energy of anyone who hears you griping and moaning.
If that does not inspire you to reconsider your reactions, think of it another way. It is really no fun to be around someone who complains all of the time. It surely is not fun to be around someone yelling or screaming.
The next time you are reacting to a situation and it makes you want to yell and/or complain, try to think about how others around you feel. Furthermore, try thinking about the fact that others are probably complaining about your complaining, because no one wants to be around a Negative Nancy. You are creating a snowball effect of complaints. Who wants to be responsible for that?
So what’s the alternative? Like I said, it is perfectly acceptable to vent. What I would encourage you to consider would be to calm yourself down to the best of your ability before you seek the help of others. Use your breath to help calm your mind. Take several slow, deep breaths. Try venting without anger, and with a calmer, clearer mind frame.
The bottom line is I am asking you to stop screaming, because it is noise pollution. I am also asking you to consider how much negativity you spread by complaining. Neither are very attractive. Besides, chronic complaining makes you become someone to complain about? Wouldn’t you rather people talk about you in a good way, instead of about how much you complain?
Life is much more pleasant when we learn to breath through our anger, and calm ourselves down before we discuss a problem we are having. It is also much more enjoyable to deal with your problems proactively, instead of just complaining about them.
Take action, instead of relying on your reactions. And when you do react, try reacting mindfully. Remember Ahimsa? It means to do no harm. Complaining and yelling is harmful to yourself, and it is harmful to others.
In trying to get our own way, we should remember that kisses are sweeter than whine. ~Author Unknown