Many people hold on to the past like it is a best friend. This can include past accomplishments and past transgressions.
Dwelling in the past will prevent you from living in happiness now.
Defining yourself only by your past achievements will hold you back from success in the present.
For instance, I hear this a lot: “I used to be thin.” Well, “used to be” does not do you any good right now. What it does do for you is to hold you back from realizing that right here and right now, you have the power to be thin again.
Living in the past prevents you from taking control of your present life.
Holding on to past baggage is actually detrimental to your health, as well. Let’s say you did something bad in your past, and this memory haunts you daily.
By thinking about this past misbehavior every day, you are re-living that stress, and that stress is harmful to your body. Stress causes high blood pressure, weight gain, heart disease, and more.
Regretting the past is also preventing you from appreciating and experiencing the gifts of the present moment. There is so much love to be experienced in the here and the now. Why disregard it and live in misery?
This also applies to holding on to something that you wanted to happen in the past, but it did not manifest itself.
What “could have been” did not happen. What was “supposed to happen” obviously did not happen. Dwelling on it will only make you miserable right now.
My suggestion: try to move on. Try to appreciate what you have around you. And if you want to accomplish something, take action now to make it happen.
The only moment where opportunity exists to make changes to better your life is in the present moment. You cannot change the past.
If you want to be thin again, take the steps that are necessary to accomplish this goal.
If you are holding on to something that happened, or something that did not happen, try acceptance. Accepting where you came from will allow you to embrace the present moment. From the present, change can occur.
“The past has no power over the present moment.”
“If not now, when?”
“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”
“Accept – Then act.”